He said we were dating
Dear Lauren, I’ve sort of been seeing this guy for 3 months.
Right at the beginning we felt a connection but he told me he was not ready for a relationship.
I felt like I had made it clear that we weren’t going to date, so I thought it was okay to keep hanging out with him one-on-one and talking to him almost daily.
When he finally asked me if we were ever going to date, I said I didn’t think so.
I thought this was okay until I woke up the next morning feeling super connected to him and realizing he still had a girlfriend. It might not necessarily mean that you and that person are meant to be.
It was because I had been letting him meet all sorts of emotional needs and treating him like my boyfriend when he wasn’t.
I remember sitting under a starry night sky, surrounded by beautiful trees when a handsome friend of mine started asking me questions about my life.
It was charmingly romantic, except it wasn’t because he had a girlfriend.
When we came back, he stayed over and we cuddled watching a movie. -Nadine Dear Nadine, Men think women are the complicated one’s who are mysterious and give mixed confusing signals.
We’ve been texting since but when I invited him to my birthday party, he suddenly went silent and I haven’t heard from him in 3 days. What they don’t realize is that they can come across just as confusing and misleading! Right now he’s pulling away and acting cold because he’s trying to navigate this relationship without feeling like he has to defend himself against you and your expectations of him and the evolving relationship. You have let him know your honest intentions: you ARE looking for a relationship. This message, however, lets him know that More importantly, it also lets him off the hook.
Then he added me on Facebook, invited me to his graduation party and on a ski vacation.